Living with an addict 101: Tips for learning how to live with an addict.
If you have found yourself living with an addict and need advice on how to help an addict who doesn’t want help, contact the professionals at White Sands Tampa now for advice on how to handle the situation. Our number is (877) 640-7820 and we are waiting to take your call. Everyone deserves to be loved, however, you cannot compromise yourself in order to make things work. Below are some tips (and insight into) living with an addict.
Those who are living with an addict understand all too well about the ups and downs associated with it. Sometimes, they think they can “fix” the addict and become addicted to “fixing” them. You understand what it is like to wait all night until they come home just to make sure that they made it alive. You also know that one drink can set them down a dangerous path so you are in constant worry for their safety – even when they are not.
Individuals living with an addict often wonder, “Is tonight the night my loved one will die?” This is not an exaggeration. It is the harsh truth. People seem to believe that addiction is for junkies and criminals, but the truth is, addiction is a disease. Addiction does not discriminate – everyone from doctors and lawyers to fast-food attendants and janitors could be addicts.
When you think to yourself, “how to deal with an addict,” you have to remember that the person who used to be there – is no longer there. Now the addict is present until they hopefully receive treatment. Living with an addict can be traumatic – this person is out of their mind and you have a front row seat for the show. You know you cannot say anything because they will not react well. Specifically, they will deny that they have a problem and become defensive. In cases like this, it is sometimes helpful to stage an intervention.
Intervention- An intervention is a plea to the addict to get help. This process involves planning and sometimes, a professional should be utilized to help mediate the process.
- Consult with a specialist. This person should have experience with drug interventions. This individual should be able to impart wisdom and guide you through the process. They will also ensure that the intervention does not get out of hand and that things remain calm.
- Everything should be planned down to the last detail. Being prepared will help you be confident going into the intervention. Planning is one thing – but when you get in that room with your loved one – you may forget everything. So, a solid plan is imperative to your success. You may even want to anticipate what the addict will say so that you already have your responses prepared.
- Choose people to participate that really care about this person. Do not invite people who condone the behavior of the addict – this is the opposite of what you want. The people who are gathered should have the best interest of the addict at heart. You do not need someone there that will be counterproductive.
- You and the group should establish consequences for the addict. Each person will have their own consequences. For example, if the addict refuses to get help, you could say that they must leave your house and you will no longer put up with their behavior. Someone else might tell the addict that they will no longer provide financial assistance to them.
- No judgement. People at the intervention should not be behaving in a judgmental matter or be angry. This will cause the addict to become defensive and possibly shut down.
- No enabling. You may very well be the reason they have been able to continue using. Look inside yourself and realize this – then stop. You are not helping.
- Follow through. Advising the addict of the consequence you will bestow upon them if they do not seek help is great. However, if you do not follow up, they will not change their behavior.
- Arrange treatment. When you tell the addict you want them to enter treatment, make it harder for them to say no by offering them treatment at a certain facility. The arrangements have already been made – and all they must do is go.
For more information on staging an intervention or for advice on how to deal with an addict, call White Sands Tampa.
If you or a loved one needs help with abuse and/or treatment, please call the White Sands Tampa at (877) 640-7820. Our addiction specialists can assess your recovery needs and help you get the addiction treatment that provides the best chance for your long-term recovery.